These days, all we hear about are #goals, expectations and social standards.
"In a world where you can be anything, be yourself". If you are on any social media platform, you probably have seen this motivational quote by Etta Turner. We have all "liked", commented on, or even reposted a similar quote at least once and while these actions are all great for our algorithms, do they have any impact on our real lives? You know...the ones outside of our screens.
The journey to being your unapologetic self is as challenging as it is rewarding.
When we put too much emphasis on other people's expectations, we are often met with disappointment and frustration.
Set your own goals
The definition of success varies from one person to another.
You do not need to be married by 30, you do not need to own a house by 35 nor do you need to own the latest gadgets. None of these goals can guarantee happiness or success if you feel pressured into achieving them.
Everyone's story is different; therefore, everyone's milestones will be different.
There is value in setting your own goals for yourself. By thinking a goal through and setting a timeline, you are taking the first step towards materializing it and holding yourself accountable. The key is to remain realistic and understand what is in or out of your control.
Pay less attention to social standards
Social standards are influenced by our social groups or cultures and we are often compelled to live up to the expectations.
There is a difference between worrying about what strangers think of you and valuing your personal entourage's perception of you.
On the one hand, you are bothered by superficial standards, whereas on the other hand you are attentive to the impressions of those who know your character.
There is nothing wrong with enjoying the finer things in life or aspiring to bigger projects if you do not let where you shop, what you eat and where you summer define you.
Ultimately, we must never forget that we are in constant evolution. The person you are today might be worlds away from the person you were even a few months ago.
The journey is yours to experience and define. As long as you are the one in control, you are always on the right path!